Humble Pie. It’s Delicious.

This whole relationship/sex/life thing is humbling. I’ve made massive mistakes, I’ve been turned down, and I’ve had some near-death-by-embarassment moments during sex. Add multiple partners and it’s exponentially easier...

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10 Lessons Learned

My last sexual adventures as a single woman were in my late-teens. Shrouded in uncertainty, guided by desire for a “soul mate,” and with limited understanding of my body and its pleasures, my experiences were mediocre at...

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Madame’s Favorite Things

Oprah’s list is lovely … if you’re in the market for a preppy tote, or a cake that looks like a flower pot. No, but thank you (though the tote would hold a Hitachi Magic Wand nicely). I want naughty, soft, personal...

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Not Chosen

I’ve had the good fortune to experience beautiful, positive feelings in my sexual adventuring. Some of the most intense positive emotions of my life, in fact. When I allowed affection, play, and passion to mingle with a larger...

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Slut FAQ

Say the word “slut” in mixed company you’ll get some raised eyebrows. The word carries centuries of baggage (): dirty, slovenly, “a woman with loose sexual morals.” Morality … always the trouble maker. I, along...

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Out!

So, I’m coming out as a consensual non-monogamist. It’s such a private thing – a sex life – it begs the question, “Why come out?” Consensual non-monogamy isn’t a kink, it’s a lifestyle. A big part of my...

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